Women In Science And How Sharing Our Goals Makes Us Stronger
King’s Cross has seen me crying a few times. I was trying to remember today when was the first time, and probably was three years ago. My head was everywhere, I was very confused and in I was crying because I felt ashamed. Since then, I have probably cried in every part of Kings Cross, sometimes of joy, sometimes for no reason.
Today, a truly loved friend of mine gave me some exciting news. She is going to pursue her most important dream in science. She told me this while sitting in St Pancras International, and I just couldn’t hold my tears.
As I walked to the underground station, I couldn’t stop crying. I remembered three years ago, the shameful situation I was living, but today I was crying because I was proud of her.
I am very proud of my friend, who being a woman is going to stand up in a field that historically has been led by men. I am proud of my friend that didn’t give up. I am proud that more women are coming into science, I am proud that the world would have a new professional, I am absolutely proud of her goal.
Thinking about this, I went back to a constant thought that I have about how society has taught us to be jealous of others achievements. I have to say, being very honest, that I don’t feel jealous at all today. Even though my future is not clear enough and I wish I had a decision taken, in my heart there is nothing but joy.
I have taken the strong decision to acknowledge my goals and acknowledge other’s as well, knowing that these lasts ones, are not my failure. Specifically, acknowledging the fact that other women reaching high goals are not my competence, but my allies. Strong women are the ones who help others.
Today I want to use my friend situation as an excuse to remind me (and hopefully some readers) to be proud of others achievements. The goal my friend has reached today, is an amazing step forward for her, but also a tiny step forward of all of us women, who continue being present in science. The decision my friend took today is going to change her life, but most importantly, is going to change many other lives.
Women in science are powerful: our work is making history. Every patient of yours is going to remember you forever. Every woman in science has the power and the obligation to serve: to make her research valuable, her work impeccable and especially, to never make harm. Today, life changed for my friend, but also for her future patients and their families.
Today Kings Cross saw me crying, again (it happens quite often, to be honest), but I am writing this post as the train takes me away from Kings Cross, realizing that this is the time where my tears in this station, have been the resemblance of one of the most positive feelings that I have felt: absolute confidence in someone else’s abilities.